The Emotional Intelligence Inventory

Are you ready to shift how you handle challenging moments with your child? 



The Emotional Intelligence Inventory is a powerful tool that allows you to log how you define and manage your emotions and what you wish to share with your child. It helps you gain insight into your own behavior and emotions, allowing you to identify patterns and areas for improvement. For example, if you notice that your initial reaction to your child's challenging behavior is to yell or become frustrated, you can use the inventory to reflect on why you responded that way. By understanding how you define frustration and where you learned how to manage it, you will be able to guide your child and your behavior in a more productive way. 

As parents, our children serve as mirrors, prompting us to examine our relationship with emotions. Do we embrace anger and conflict or shy away from it? Does fear trigger anxiety and control? These questions aren't about right or wrong answers; they're invitations to introspection.

Awareness of our responses grants us the power of choice – the ability to consciously engage with our children's emotions.

Picture this: Your child's behavior triggers your frustration or anger. Instead of reacting impulsively, you turn to your inventory. You jot down your initial reaction and then reflect on why you responded that way. This simple act of awareness empowers you to identify patterns and areas for growth, which is a game-changer. Why? Because it empowers you to navigate future breakdowns with clarity and grace (rather than reactivity and guilt). 

Through its structured approach, the inventory teaches you the invaluable skill of emotional intelligence. You will learn how to:

• Label your emotion
• Tolerate the emotion
• Recuperate from the emotion

Designed with leading questions, this inventory is your companion in navigating the labyrinth of your emotions. It guides you to explore your emotional landscape, understand how you learned to manage emotions, and intentionally choose the values you wish to impart to your children.  Invest in your journey toward mindful connection and emotional resilience today.

The Emotion's Wheel

Learn How to Identify Your Core Emotions



In this PDF, we invite you to highlight the emotions that you avoid. These are the feelings that make you uncomfortable, the ones you’d rather not deal with. By pinpointing these emotions, whether it's anger, frustration, or fear, you can become more aware of your triggers. Imagine your child throwing a tantrum – by recognizing what you're feeling in those moments, you can better control your responses and model healthy emotional regulation for your little one. Not only does this practice benefit you, but it also helps your child learn to label and navigate their own emotions, developing their emotional intelligence. 

Understanding and managing emotions is a crucial aspect of effective parenting. One key strategy to enhance emotional awareness is to identify the emotions that you tend to avoid or suppress. By acknowledging these avoided emotions, you can gain valuable insights into your emotional triggers and patterns. For example, if you notice that you often shy away from feelings of anger or frustration, this awareness can help you recognize when these emotions arise during challenging parenting moments. Identifying these avoided emotions is the first step towards developing emotional intelligence and self-awareness, essential skills for navigating challenging parenting situations.

By understanding your own emotional reactions, you can help your child develop their emotional vocabulary and literacy. When children observe their parents acknowledging and expressing emotions in a constructive manner, they learn by example. By guiding your child to label their feelings during challenging moments, you empower them to communicate their emotions more effectively. This shared emotional language enhances your child's emotional intelligence and equips them with essential skills to navigate their own emotional landscape.